OFF Of The Battlefield. ON TO the Playing Field.

Our current daytime drama, which passes for life, is literally littered with fatalities in the battle between men and women.

Check your numbers.

In the business world, women are earning 79 cents to the dollar on what men are earning. The costs of succeeding in the business realm have far too often outweighed the carrots being dangled and have women compromising what is most important to them: the quality of their close connections and the quantity of time they can spend with their loved ones.

The rate of successful first-time marriages in the United States is only about 59%, with the rates for second and third marriages dramatically lower. Divorce rates have increased, inverse to the numbers of women entering the workforce.
And a 2009 survey, The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness, reports women in general have a lower sense of well-being and life satisfaction than they did 40 years ago.

These costs of doing battle between the sexes are staggering. We hope you agree, they are too high.

We propose a simple solution.

Let us, as a gender, agree to move our relationships, with men and with other women, off of the battlefield and onto the playing field. It is time for a new paradigm of relating between men and women and it is up to us, as the emotional and biological caretakers of relationship throughout time. Nowhere has it been truer: if it is to be, it’s up to me.

Such a new paradigm will require vision, discipline, commitment, connection, education and community, yet all these things will benefit women and society in both the short term and for generations of women and men to come. It is not only possible, but vitally imperative now as never before, to create the understanding, structures and practices that foster women’s success, contribution and ecstasy.

As we move in these directions, we will see a renaissance of life-giving institutions, businesses and innovations which will enrich us as individuals, couples, families and societies. Come on to the playing field.

Let me know how you would like to play.