Is it real or is it fear?

Some signs you may be in FEAR or up against your limiting beliefs or confronting the size of your life versus how you imagine it could be: Frequent mood swings from elation to doubt. Taking steps forward and steps back. Changing your mind often. Questioning yourself rather than others. Soliciting other’s opinions in order to validate your choices. Blaming others. Blaming yourself. Mistrusting others, even though there is evidence. Worrying about HOW things will work out. Trying to control the way you feel, or the way others feel or act. You made a big promise and now you are regretting it. You can’t make up your mind. Despite the above, you feel compelled to decide. No patience to wait and let things happen, instead you must “force the hand”, “make a decision”. Not questioning authority. If you are on the verge of something big and suddenly you get sick. You are very sensitive and questioning the meaning of every little action someone else takes. Other’s lack of action drives you crazy. Other people suddenly desperately need you, so that you don’t have time to take care of your own stuff. In a community such as ours, where we are growing and expanding, there will be ample opportunities to experience fear. In each moment, we are either shrinking down OR expanding. Either "covering your butt" OR "taking new ground". You can’t do both at once. Every minute we are in action towards one or the other. even when we are doing nothing. I have been through the gamut of it lately, with most of the above symptoms. Instead of following my truth, I get swayed by other's opinions. My gosh, it hurts. Compare this to the elation of discovery, or of taking exhilarating risks. Same or different? One of life’s big challenges is developing the ability to distinguish between the two states in yourself: expanding into boldness or shrinking into fear? Until you can distinguish for yourself, you need feedback from a trained and impartial coach.